Bringing Up Girls
Peer pressure. Eating disorders. Decisions about love, romance, and sex. Academic demands. Life goals and how to achieve them. These are just some of the challenges that girls face today—and the age at which they encounter them is getting younger and younger. As a parent, how are you guiding your daughter on her journey to womanhood? Are you equipping her to make wise choices? Whether she’s still playing with dolls or in the midst of the often-turbulent teen years, is she truly secure in her identity as your valued and loved daughter? In the New York Times bestseller Bringing Up Girls, parenting authority and trusted family counselor Dr. James Dobson will help you face the challenges of raising your daughters to become strong, healthy, and confident women who excel in life.
Here are some excerpts that I found to share with you:
This first text brought scientific research to my already derived experiential knowledge, but it is always good to know how and why we are made the way we are.
pages 28-29 “…But what aspect of human nature drives behavior associated with masculinity and femininity? It begins at conception, when males and females start their developmental journeys down two very different paths. That juncture will affect the way they think, feel, and act for the rest of their lives. The brains of both sexes appear to be “female” until about the eighth week, when a male brain is washed by a huge surge of testosterone. It is then transformed radically and even takes on a different color.
This male sex hormone kills some of the communication cells, including a portion of the bundle of nerves called the corpus callosum. It is a rope of fibers that connects the right hemisphere ,where emotion is processed, with the left, where language is focused. Although the corpus callosum survives the testosterone bath, the male brain will never be able to “cross talk” as effectively thereafter, which has major implications for future masculine behavior. Testosterone also causes an increase in the volume of neurons and circuits located in the boy’s sex and aggression centers. Why does that surprise us?….
Because the female brain is not subjected to a comparable surge of testosterone in the womb and beyond, its communicated and emotional centers remain intact. In fact, these structures will grow larger and become better networked neurologically. A girl’s corpus callosum is up to 25 percent larger in a male’s, and becomes and eight-lane superhighway capable of carrying great quantities of emotional information from one side of the brain to the other. (For boys it is a country road.)”
This text begins in a quote from President John Adams and reminded me that even our four fathers knew the importance of families!
pages 38-39 -” “The foundations of national Morality must be laid in private Families. In vain are Schools, Academics, and universities instituted if loose Principles and licentious habits are impressed upon Children in their earliest years. The Mothers are the earliest and most important Instructors of youth.”
How insightful is that Adams placed the responsibility for the essential moral character of the nations squarely on the shoulders of the mothers. Fathers play a key role, too, of course, but moms are absolutely indispensable. It is their primary task to transmit enduring principles of right and wrong to the next generation. The old proverb “the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world” is still true. If women grown weary of that responsibility, or if they lose sight of their own moral compass, no other institution or governmental agency will be able to save the nation. So wrote President John Adams.
“On another occasion he elaborated on the link between national character and the preservation of a democracy. He wrote:
We have no government armed with power capable of contending with human passions unbridled by morality and religion. Avarice, ambition, revenge, or gallantry, would break the strongest cords of our Constitution as a whale goes through a net. Our constitution was made only for a moral and religious people. It is wholly inadequate to the government of any other.”
To paraphrase, Adams was saying that a representative form of government such as ours cannot survive without a spiritual foundation, because it is citizens are masters of their own destinies. That is the great vulnerability of a democracy. Our political system, which Abraham Lincoln said is intended to be “of the people, by the people, for the people,” can be no more stable than the collective character of its citizenry. It’s all up to us.”
This section really hit home to me. This is to me, proof that the current culture has it wrong when it comes to its acceptance of same-sex families.
pages 88-89 “Let me make another thing clear, although some of your will not like what I am about to write: mothers cannot fill this particular empty space. They can and must meet similar needs for love and adoration, and in fact they do occupy their own real estate in a daughter’s heart. A girl without a mother’s love is a sad spectacle indeed, and I would not minimize the maternal role in any regard. But moms can’t be dads and dads can’t be moms. That is why the current advocacy on behalf of same-sex marriage and homosexual adoption contradicts what is best for children.”
Those are just a few of the MANY incredibile things I learned through this book. WOW! If you have a daughter, or one day might have one, BUY this book and READ it NOW!